Perhaps it’s counter intuitive but if you want to get closer to something put a project between you and it. That is, if you want to improve something like a strained relationship with a sibling or a place, it’s difficult if you only talk or think about it. Talking (for the most part) needs the presence of another person (and is always full of sidetracking variables) — and thinking is subject to the inconstancy of attention and all kinds of internal sympathies.
        Ultimately it helps to formalize a concern or goal by forcing yourself to translate the thing into a medium (photography, writing) and allow yourself distance from it — to take it in more calmly.
        Italian photographer Federico Clavarino is a great example. He has what could be called photo projects —formalized explorations of subject and place. He seems to set a field of coverage, then through the detached paraphrase of his camera, generates results that are both new to the subject and himself.